When two lovers are destined to meet, it’s as though two beacons are lit, and it’s just a matter of time before they connect up.
But first that beacon needs to be cleaned up. What does it take to clean that beacon? Answer: letting go of all that gets in your way. Next it needs fuel. That requires you to have a clear vision of your future relationship. Then it needs to be lit and sent out across the horizon.
It takes courage to decide on opening up to love. You've taken the very first step - by choosing to read this page. I applaud your openness and your courage.
I've walked that path (my story), and I know just how much courage it can take. I would be more than happy to help you on your journey. Using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) and coaching, and drawing on my years of experience as a psychotherapist, I can help you with healing your past, and help you move forward with a clear vision, your Love Manifesto, to find your beloved soulmate.
So, what does it take to manifest love?
MANIFESTING LOVE AFTER 50
Letting go the stories you tell yourself:
- I’m too old
- I’ve put on weight
- There are no good men out there
- Men are only interested in sex
- Men are only interested in younger women
- There are no men I’d be interested in living close by
- Relationships don’t work for me.
- Dating sites are only full of scammers.
I'd be curious. What other stories do you have about yourself, men, relationships, and dating? All of these create barriers to you being truly available. Time to let them go!
Letting go your fears:
- I've been hurt before, I'll get hurt again.
- I've been on my own too long, living with another person wouldn't work.
- I'd have to change my lifestyle
- I'll get scammed.
What other fears might you be holding about love and relationship. Fears hold us back. Perhaps ask yourself the question: what might the future hold if I were to let go my fears around love?
Letting go wounding from past relationships:
- Infidelity
- Jealousy
- Controlling behavior
- Emotional/verbal abuse
When we have experienced deep wounding in our relationships, we are very likely to be fearful of exposing ourselves to the possibility of further hurt. This is entirely natural - as humans we have an inbuilt need for safety and protection. Perhaps you have other experiences which have also left you feeling wounded and mistrustful? Here's the thing: you don't need to carry these> You can, with help, let go the wounds, and open up to the possibility of a loving and secure relationship.
"Brenda is nothing short of amazing when it comes to knowing and guiding someone through EFT. She expertly and compassionately guided me to access and rewrite a long forgotten imprinting around betrayal. I am forever grateful for this experience in profound healing." Julie W..
Letting go childhood wounds:
While some of our wounds come from our experiences in past relaltionships, many have deeper rootes. Have you noticed a pattern in your relationships? Men who
- are clingy and drive you nuts
- initially seem very keen and then just vanish
- are cut off from their emotions
- blow hot and cold
Perhaps you recognize similar patterns in yourself?
Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the same sort of man, having the same sort of experience? The answer almost certainly lies in our childhood. In an ideal world we would have learned to trust. We would also have had parents who modelled what a healthy stable relationship would look like. Sadly, that is not the case for many of us and we carry wounds and old trauma from childhood which we bring to our relationships. Here's the thing: we can heal these. And we can move forward without being hijacked by them.
"In Brenda’s brilliant, effective way of asking the right questions to unearth the true source of anguish and pain I was able to heal a core wound and happily I am able to be in the presence of my previous love mate without an ounce of romantic attachment." A.E.
Your Love Manifesto
Your Love Manifesto is the clear light you send out into the world, your vision of the relationship which would be right for you.
- What are your non-negotiables? What are your must-haves?
- What do you bring to relationship?
- What would your beloved bring to your relationship?
- What would your relationship look like?
Creating a Love Manifesto gives you clarity. No more time wasted hooking up with guys who do not share your values, men who are not ready for your sort of relationship, men who are just not right for you. When you get to the place where you can read your Love Manifesto without any "yes buts", then you are ready to attract the man who is right for you.
Finding Love Online
Here's where you get to choose between hoping that some day by chance you will meet your beloved or deciding to be pro-active about finding him. There are undoubtedly disadvantages to online dating. The advantages far outweigh them and increase the possibility of meeting that beautiful man. I can help you through the process of online dating: what dating site is right for you, how to overcome the disadvantages. Using your Love Manifesto as your guiding star, and some "secret ingredients", I can coach you in creating a "Wow" profile, designed to attract the man who is right for you.
The good news is that with Brenda’s assistance I have found a loving, satisfying (in all ways) relationship. I went from fear that I was unavailable emotionally, unattractive, embarrassed and shy, to confident, hopeful and most importantly I love myself so I am able to love someone else. Alex
As you can see, there are many different aspects to creating a clear path to love, some of which may apply to you and some not. For that reason, my Manifesting Love after 50 package is custom-designed to meet your specific needs.
If you would like to explore how you could clean up and light that beacon, book a FREE strategy consult to gain some practical recommendations that could support you in opening to love. And if it feels that working together would be a good fit, then we can look at how I can continue to support you on your journey to find your beloved.